• Manners Are A Sensitive Awareness Of The Feelings Of Others

    With Home Tool Hub Educational Parlour, you can learn how to improve your work relationships whenever you break bread.

  • An extensive dining etiquette course

    This course covers dining etiquette, guest entertaining and practising the best communication strategies over lunch.

  • Whether you are preparing for an important meal, a dinner party or your first job as a server, you will be sure to make a fabulous impression after this class.

Proper Table Manners

Utensils and Glassware

In an informal setting, you may not be confronted with multiple utensils. Your meal may not require more than a single fork and knife. However, even at an informal dinner, your host may place multiple cutlery before you. Regardless of the construction of the place setting, always eat from the outside in. When unsure, wait to see what others do, particularly your host.

Passing Dishes

Pass food from the left to the right. Do not stretch across the table, crossing other guests, to reach food or condiments. If another guest asks for the salt or pepper, pass both shakers together, even if they only asked for one of them. Dinner guests won’t then have to search for orphaned shakers.

The Napkin

If you need to wipe your mouth, wrap a section of the napkin around your index finger and remove the offending article. Using a large portion of the napkin makes it more difficult to use it again if needed. Try not to leave the table mid-meal. If you have to, excuse yourself. Leave your napkin either on a chair or place it to the left of your plate. When finished, place the napkin gracefully on the table, and do not place it on top of your plate that would be a table manner faux pas. Make sure to always push your chair back in when you leave the table. It is an often overlooked detail but it’s part of proper table etiquette.

Setting a Table Properly

The Overall Scheme

The charger is a large service plate which will stay on the table during early courses. Dishes containing soup, appetizer or salad courses are served on top of the charger, which is removed only when you serve the main course, or entree. Whether you use a placemat or set plates directly on the tablecloth, you need to leave a gap of 1/2 to 1 inch between the bottom of the place setting and the table edge. This allows diners to sit down without disturbing the setting.


Spoons follow the outward-in pattern, although there are usually only two. The spoon farthest from the plate is for the first course, which is soup. The second spoon, if one is provided, is intended to be used when coffee is served at the end of the meal. At a less formal American meal, coffee might be served and the spoon used, throughout the meal. If there is no second spoon, coffee may be served away from the table, in another room. A third spoon, for dessert, is placed closest to the plate and is often paired with a small fork, close to the other side of the plate.

A Bread and Butter Plate

Imagining your charger plate as a clock face makes it easy to locate other silverware in the setting. A bread and butter plate with its knife is usually set at the point of the entree-knife blade, or at approximately 10:00.

Tips on Selecting Utensils

  • Stainless Steel Characteristics

    "This steel stains less", at least that’s how original sets of stainless utensils were promoted - as, tableware you don’t need to polish. Most people keep stainless steel as their everyday utensils and revert to silverware for special occasions.

    Weight Matters

    Hold the pieces of a stainless steel flatware set, and determine if they are well-balanced, or if the knives seem bottom heavy. Soup spoons should have a deep bowl, and all the pieces must fit into your hand comfortably. People with small and large hands need different shapes and styles of flatware.

    Production Method

    If the utensils are lightweight, they're probably hollow-handled, and the pieces making up the flatware have been soldered together. Stamped flatware is a solid piece of metal, meaning it’s heavier. A forged piece of flatware is simple in its design and created when the hot metal is heated and the pattern is struck.


Christer Hegge

Educator at Home Tool Hub Educational Parlour

Our course is an overview of etiquette rules, updated for today's fast-paced lifestyle and ever-changing codes of conduct for work and leisure. Etiquette helps smooth the path of our daily activities.


This course covers dining etiquette,
guest entertaining and practising the best communication strategies over lunch.


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